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Oh god sorry but I really have to rant this out.

If you feel offended by this, this isn't anything against any sexualities, just against people who switch orientations like underwear. To get rid off misconceptions, please read the whole journal or stop reading right here.

I've seen people stereotyping deviantART members for being not straight and guess what?
They are right. Nowadays it's hard to find ANYONE on deviantART who is straight anymore.
Well, actually still many of them are, but they just pretend to be someone completely else and it makes me sick by now.

I mean when there is like every second girl I see on dA is either lesbian or bisexual!? what?!
You guys this makes no sense. I understand when some people are unsure about their sexuality and all.
And I also know that some of them actually ARE bi, gay or lesbian. or pan or transexual or whatever else is there.
I am 100% sure that not all of them are.

See, for some of you it doesn't matter. "I most likely only know my partner over the internet, so it doesn't matter if they have a penis or a vagina"
but this has nothing to do with your sexuality and you're actually HURTING people like this.
It's not a surprise anymore that many people say Homo-/Bi-/whatever- sexuality is a choice of your own.


It makes me so sick when I see people change the info on their pages from straight to gay to pan to trans to bi and back to straight.
And even worse is it when they actually are doing this and having a relationship with someone they'd usually never be attracted to, because it's just not their real sexuality but it's their partners.
Wtf? They get so hurt. And those people who do that don't even give a shit because world wide web.

So just to get something straight: (hah get it? straight. omg lame jokes over here.

You are NOT bisexual or anything just because you desperately want to be in a relationship and you give a fuck with who.
That has like 0% to do with your orientation, it is just abusing people who actually feel something for you.

and please
stop doing this for attention
you aren't special when you have any "fancy orientation" (or let's say pretend to)
It doesn't make anyone special.
Just for those who really feel that way and can't do anything about it:
it makes them sincerely happy when they found something because they don't choose it. They just accept it and live with it and they don't decide on it to desperately get attention or a partner.

That's it for now. will add to this if I can think of anything I forgot.

~ Griwi out.
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Darkstar-The-Great Featured By Owner Jul 11, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I actually wrote a journal about this a couple days ago, I'm glad other people notice this.
At this point you're considered special of you're straight lol
I'm straight, always have been, and I'm proud to be the sexuality I am.
I'm with a wonderful guy because I was honest. I hope everyone comes to their senses eventually... But I guess that's their fault for whatever hurt they cause on themselves and others 
SilhouetteMisfit Featured By Owner Jul 10, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Well im strait xD

I know what you mean it is kinda frustrating because ive been brought up to say stuff like 'That game is so gay' and on DA I cant use half the words I would normally use cause it 'offends' these people

I don't have anything against gays but I do think a lot of people trick themselves into thinking they like the same gender as themselves these days
mexicats Featured By Owner Jul 7, 2014
reason why i don't have my sexuality on my page or anything else
i don't want people to think i'm "faking it" or "following the crowd"
when really it's taken me years to come to terms with my sexuality 
and even longer for me to accept myself for it
deadpillows Featured By Owner Jul 6, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
i wanted to write this actually 2 days ago but didn't have the time to.
so basically the way you think is logical, sure.
but you see, most of the dA community consists of 13 year old kids.
it's not like i'm saying everyone being 13 is an idiot or something, but i have to admit that mostly those people are the ones, constantly changing their "sexuality" day by day.
it's a childish thing to do, just do get attention, of course but there ARE actually people questioning their sexuality, even if they already ARE 18+ for example.
i've talked with one of my friends about this and still we both are insecure about it. for my part it's a little.. complicated i'd say. i can see myself being together with both men and women. i mean, dude boobs are awesome and kissing a girl doesn't sound half that bad. same goes to men. still i don't know if i am to 100% sure about it. my friend also questions her sexuality because she actually has seen men she finds attractive even though she defines herself as lesbian.
so YES, i agree if you don't believe in 13-years old saying they are 100% pan, bi or homosexual because, son you didn't even grown up 50% by now, your hormones are still partying don't date people you actually don't have the equally same feelings for like they have for you just because it makes you look "unique"
but it really just goes to those people. because i don't think more than 5% of people who are 16+ years old do it on purpose.

i hope i made my point of view clear here and didn't confuse any of you.
synchrosen Featured By Owner Jul 5, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
amen :clap:
IvypoolForever Featured By Owner Edited Jul 4, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I think, out of the many girls I know, only about 4-6 say they are straight. It's ridiculous! Some people actually are bi, gay, lebian, trans, pan, etc., but lots of them constantly change their profile from straight to gay to bi. Really?

I used girls as an example, but I guys do it too 
my-little-infinity Featured By Owner Jul 4, 2014
I know I rarely comment on your drawings, but I am an active watcher of yours, and I couldn't agree more ^^

I have one friend who is really just questioning about their sexuality, except they decide that bisexual is basically "the same thing" as questioning. I've identified as bisexual ever since I exited the "childhood" portion of my life, and some people ask me if I "plan on changing it", since I'm not "old enough to know". I know myself really well, and it was damn easy to figure out within my daily life that I was bi, and the idea that people think I can just "change" my "label" just confuses me.

Anyway, back to my friend, they have a crush on a guy and a girl, and while this would technically fall under the bi category, they say they judge it day by day and sometimes wake up "feeling bi". I seriously think that people use the sexuality that I'm proud of and identify with to justify questioning. And back to your topic, it feels like people who don't know just pass themselves off as bi so as to have a "rarer" sexuality, quite often. I've seen this a lot on DeviantART, since a lot of people who're straight feel pressured to be "unique", I suppose. I don't know.

Sorry for this being long—but I don't hate straight people, or those questioning about their sexuality. But passing yourself off as something that other people actually are to compensate for something is just plain wrong.
pussrik Featured By Owner Jul 4, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I used to have a friend who claimed to be straight at first, but then she went into that "popular artist" phase and suddenly labelled herself as pansexual. Literally right after she labelled herself as one she got herself a girlfriend - which was her best friend, mind you. When I asked her how it happened or why she was even doing it, since she was a little young for dating, and she said that "everyone else was doing it". 

To be fair I don't understand why people are carrying their sexualities around like a medal. It's your preference of who you would date and/or fuck. Why is it even worth caring about???? 
nati11184 Featured By Owner Jul 4, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
breeozoa Featured By Owner Jul 4, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
This is sooooo sooooooo true. I couldn't agree more.
I also noticed how everyone on here is not straight anymore. Everyone is pan,or bi,or some other thing.
Some of them are for real,but others just completely change their S.O on their profile every two months or something. Like what. <_>
I always knew I was straight. But I always felt like the way I was attracted to boys was different from that of my friends. Then I discovered the term "demisexual" here on dA...and after I did some research,I completely found myself in the description.
From that moment,I haven't used the term"heterosexual" anymore but just "straight" or "straight demisexual" ..and then I sticked to that,and still am.
But really...I saw so many people changing from lesbian to genderfluid to demisexual in a matter of weeks. And I have to be honest,it makes me a little bit annoyed. So I completely feel you,friend ;w;
Kaumi-chan Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I have noticed a few people who switch from being straight to bi, to being lesbian, to being pansexual.. It's just like, please stop switching it out. It's really annoying. I personally have no respect for people like that. I mean, if you find out what you are attracted to, and who you'll date, then great, but don't flaunt it like it's something special. I understand that I am only 14, and I am a little young for dating, but I have dated a variety of people, and I know for a fact that I just love people for their personality. I could care less what parts you have. But, that's just me. 

Anyways, I do agree with you. It was very well put. I just get so tired of seeing people jump around from sexuality to sexuality.. Just stop, please.
ZombieRaccoon5 Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Very well put. :)
It does get very annoying when people "jump around" :p
vivivihrea Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I see this all the time with people and it's so fucking irritating. vov
I'm considered pansexual I guess, since I'm turned on by anyone really if they do the right stuff.. XD;
I see people that say they're bisexual all the time, when really they always go for people of the opposite gender but continue to say they're bi. vov
It just bothers me all the time. :/
platonicCRUSH Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
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The-Real-Shaydee Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
find ich auch....sowas ist schon scheiße wenn die sich nichma entscheiden können was sie sind
deadpillows Featured By Owner Edited Jul 6, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Das hat nicht wirklich was mit entscheiden zu tun. Es gibt halt manche Leute, die sich nach wie vor nicht sicher sind, OB es denn wirklich nun ihre Sexuelle Orientiereung ist. Natürlich ist es für die Person, welche das bemerkt, möglicherweise nervig oder lächerlich, das kann ich auch verstehen.
Andere wiederum, haben eine gewissen Unsicherheit im Hinterkopf und hinterfragen es jedes mal, da es ja auch eventuell Personen gibt, die bisher auch noch nicht wirklich eine Beziehung hatten, demnach es auch nicht klar wiederlegen können, um zu sagen, ob man jetzt bi, pan, homo oder hetero ist.
The-Real-Shaydee Featured By Owner Jul 6, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
mhh okay das ist auch ein punkt
Kaichiiro Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm a straight female, but it does seem that most people on the internet are bi/lesbian or whatever, and a lot of the time it seems to trend almost? Like, people seem to think it's cool being gay or bi, and I don't understand it
Unbreakable-Warrior Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I can totally understand that.
I'm also really upset with people calling themselves Bi when they aren't or shit like that. So annoying and offending for others.. And KIDS doing that is just.. To be "cool" or something. I simply ignore them though.
I mean they are kids, so. Why should I give a fuck about them? If they wanna look ridiculous then fine.

I can understand people being confused by "virtual" relationships because hey. No physical contact, no kissing, no cuddling.. You're falling for feelings and personality and it can be a bit confusing.

I've always known I was fine with both boys and girls. And I was totally okay with that; so it wasn't a question to me, really.
I know today I could call myself Pansexual...
But it took me years to realise it and I'm generally extremely quiet about that. I mean; I just don't like giving names to this kind of stuff. People are using it to "belong" in some 'group' or something and it pisses me off.

It's maybe time to stop giving names to everything so people can put you in tiny boxes and judge you.

I'm just me. I love people for who they are, and their body.. sex... it's just a 'plus' I guess. It ain't necessary; and if I feel like getting in "physical stuff" both males and females are okay ^^
Caution-Koneko Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm pansexual because I actually am turned on by any gender, and also because I don't feel that genders are important. I have a boyfriend and I am bio female, and I love him.  I feel that I love him for reasons not concerning gender, and if he was not male, if he was anything at all it would not destroy how I think of him. 

However.. yes. People lie. I have a confession that I use to lie that I was male. My boyfriend figured out that I was female... and you're right. It hurt him. I was sickened by myself for lying, and I confessed to everyone that I had lied about my gender in hopes to fix my mistake. I almost lost my love because of that lie.

I hate when people do what I did with lying about things like that, but pretending to love someone... That's worst than what I did. I love my partner and that's why I admitted who I was, to stop hurting them. To make my fantasy be reality, and not make them live in a lie.
hatchl Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
i've noticed this and it's pretty annoying (like the typical 12 year old dorks who pretend to RANDOM X3 for some unidentifiable reason)

but it might just be hard to figure out your sexual orientation and you cant figure out what you are yet

tho i think the majority of the people who are swapping out their SOs are doing it just to fit in with the crowd like you say
SoaringBirds Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014
If I'm honest, I'm just going to say I'm straight until proven anything else. I personally feel that the people who swap around to every single sexuality under the sun are just people who think that straight is being uncool, but honestly I don't care whether it is or not - it's a personal preference. And that's where they should keep the information, to themselves. I don't think they should flounce around advertising their sexuality like it's a badge, but it's just my opinion, if they want the world to know, then so be it, but then the world will also see how often they change it.
RainbowXBl00df3st Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
It's kinda true :/ I like to say I'm pan sexual but I just don't care about what sex a person is If I fall in love with them I fall in love with them :)  I totally see where your coming from!
Goomuin Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Student Digital Artist
It's true, it's like almost every girl on DA is not straight anymore, and somehow it's those very young girls as well. What's also weird to me is that those same young girls also often say that they're asexual , while they're actually just not ready for a relationship just yet, because you know, you're 9. you don't really have a serious relationship at that age. But not being ready for a relationship doesn't instantly make you asexual. 

I knew someone (which I somehow called a friend, but she actually was a huge bitch), who ALWAYS told me she was straight, loved sixpacks, fell for boys in bands and anime and blahblah, and suddenly she said she was bi, just because she felt attracted to one girl. And I'm pretty sure everyone that's just straight had that once to be attracted to the same sex once. Just because I think some guys are good looking doesn't instantly make me think that I'm gay. It's also fairly common (mostly around girls I've read) to try out But trying it once doesn't make you instantly gay. 

So yeah, I don't understand those people at all who changes their sexuality a lot. I've you're REALLY bi/gay/whateverthereismore, You'd probably stick with that. I can completely understand that you first thought you were straight but after a while found out you're not (mostly because our education system has always kinda forces us that relationships are only boy and girl, look at all the stories we got read to us in the past), but changing it all the time is just no. 

Anyway, that's just how I see it, correct me if I'm wrong about certain things, I'm just straight after all and never thought different, love boobs too much.
SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I have to agree on the asexual thing, of course you're not ready for sex at a young age yet, but that doesn't mean you will never be :P
Goomuin Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Student Digital Artist
Yeah, of course at a young age you are like "ew sex is gross", but once you're older... :eyes:
Well... Except me, I never though sex was gross :XD:
SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Meh, I was heavily disturbed by it at some points in my life. And of course some people ACTUALLY don't want sex, at all, never. Or experience no sexual attraction towards other people.
Goomuin Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Student Digital Artist
The only thing that disturbs me about sex is some things that get posted online. Sex with lighted up fireworks, really?
Sure, those people exist, but I think you're only really sure about that after puberty or something. Underage sex is still kinda illegal, so yeaahhhh
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Goomuin Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Student Digital Artist
Unless you really enjoys dicks as large as you and a diameter of a lamppost in all of your holes, then no.
(But really, there's no way girls moan that much while having sex an always scream IM CUMMING IM CUMMING ._. )
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Fluffeh-Kat Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Student General Artist
I agree and I solemnly hope that people understand your message! I would classify myself as bisexual because I am attracted to both female and male, I have had long lasting crushes on both, and I actually always have like both genders. I just never knew what all these labels meant so I didnt label myself as anything, but to an outsider I guess im Bi.
ninjastarhate Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Student General Artist
I agree with you all the way :3
I used to be Bi, but I realized what that truly meant. The only reason I am the sexuality that I am is because of the people I date(d) and who they have become. Also past things with guys that I don't particularly understand or care about. I understand that your sexuality isn't something to brag about. Congrats your gay! Just like 5 million other people on this damn earth.
I have/had a friend who confronted me saying she was Bi. I was cool with it, I mean I have another friend to talk to about chics and dudes. But not twenty minutes later she was grossed out by chics and wanted the D. I was like "really?"
Sorry for my mini rant, I completely agree with what you have said my friend :3
icefirewolfie Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thank you!
I agree 100% ^^
Rook-Penguin Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist

I think if people keep this up
the only people who are gonna get attention are the people with "straight" written on their page
Neostalgia Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist
I'm so relating and agreeing to this ^^ 

I actually am bi, but I don't shout it out on the internet or sth because I honestly think that it doesn't matter :I 

Faking an orientation is just.. no.. :x 
Q33N Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014
^ I agree
Pyro-Claw Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thanks for writing this, I totally agree!!
It's so annoying how people are just "following the crowd" and say they're bi, just to get some attention...
Sirtainly Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Oh gosh finally somebody put it into words, so many people at my school have come out "bi" and went out with a girl then came out straight like a day later, not to mention the girls who kiss other girls for some guy's attention ughh
Griwi Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I don't notice it in real life that much myself but yea I see your point!
it's just.... guys this is no trend dammit.
ajflipflop Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
ugh, I feel the same way.

It's just that I used to be straight, but then I found out that I like girls too, so now I'm bi because I like both genders.

but, I just don't see why you would want to be something you're not, it doesn't make any sense.
Griwi Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
no it doesn't make sense indeed!
ajflipflop Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
some people are just very desperate for popularity I guess *shrugs*
BUKOWSKl Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you for this
I have been waiting for something like this.
Griwi Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
you're more than welcome!
NinjaCheetah Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Student Digital Artist
Thank you so much for saying this, I agree completely! Me being straight, I'm really surprised to find that I can barely find anyone else who is as well, not just even on DA, but in real life. I think it's sorta a trend going on right now? I mean, obviously if you really are gay or bi then that's great, especially being bi it's the best of both worlds that'd be awesome lol but now it just seems like something everyone has got to be rather than a actual sexuality? 
Griwi Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
guys it's not a trend.
SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Edited Jul 3, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
You know my opinion. :XD: But yea vuv casually adding this for random people because I just reread this old journal and it still makes kinda sense :XD:
tiiqer Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2014  Student General Artist
ah i agree
i was certain i was straight, but then idk maybe im bi???
so i just changed my status thing to ''bi, demi???''
but its kinda annoying how everyone is 'following the crowd by being bi to get ..attention'
because i actually do really like a guy and a girl in my class,, but when people have never dated/fancied anyone and they think they're bi its stupid tbh
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